Boyfriend of 2 years blindsides his girlfriend by saying that her cat isn't welcome if they move in together, she dumps him then wonders if she shouldn't have: 'If he really loved me, he’d accept her too, right?'

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    "[Am I overreacting] for breaking up with my boyfriend after he said my cat isn’t welcome if we move in together?"

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    We've been together 2 years, and things were going good. We started talking about moving in together soon.
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    I have this 7 year old cat. She's been with me through everything. Bad breakups, sad times, moving houses. She's my best friend.
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    My boyfriend is a bit allergic. He sneezes a lot, but when he just takes a pill and it's fine.
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    Yesterday he sat down with me and said when we get a place together, the cat can't come. He wants to start fresh, no pet hair, no litter box, nothing.
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    He said it's kinder to rehome her than make him live with allergies forever.
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    I looked at him and said if my cat isn't welcome, then we're done. I can't just give her away like that.
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    He got upset. Said i'm choosing an animal over our future, over us building a life together.
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    AIO??? She's family to me. I've had her way longer than him. If he really loved me, he'd accept her too right?
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    hiranoazusa The cat does not know a life without you. If he does not understand that you don't want someone who doesn't care about the lives of others. I wonder if these ppl are psychopaths tbh.
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    Curious_Dot3635 Please don't entertain him. He is obviously self absorbed. Not considering your feelings or the welfare of something you love dearly. So clearly yes choose the cat over a selfish child
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    GenoFlower It's NOT kinder to rehome a cat after 7 years with the same person. Fuck him for even thinking that.
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    He has the right to not want to live with allergies, for sure. But that means you aren't compatible. It's not about kindness. You and kitty are a package deal.
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    floofienewfie NOR. Your cat is your life. When my now-husband and I started dating 15 years ago, I told him that my cat and I were a package deal. He was definitely more of a dog guy and had never had a cat before. He was also allergic to them.
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    Well, eventually the two of them became best buddies and husband just blew his nose a little more. Those two would stay up late at night watching awful movies—the "Bimbo Girls from Mars" kind and when the cat got fed up with the movie, he'd get off husband's lap and meow at him. So husband would change the movie and the cat would settle in for the new movie. I miss that cat.
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    Auld_Folks_at_Home NOR. He's optional. She's a dependent.
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    Saul-Funyun I broke up with someone who was highly allergic just because I couldn't see a future without cats. She was awesome, too, but my bubs come first
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